When I let her; and her.

Glasgow, Scotland
20th day


I was reading this a few days ago and I couldn't help to look back of what had happened to me just several months back; and another one very recently.  I still felt eerie each time I remembered those moments...

A 'sister' in the 'family' had put me in the situation where she let herself (and I let her) to control how I behaved towards people around me -- she didn't want me to 'touch' any of the boys she 'booked'.  She wouldn't let me talk to him, she would interrogate me if she saw me I did, etc.  Another 'sister' recently simply gave me instructions on what I should do and should not do, totally dismissed my explanation on what I felt God had been telling me.

Reading from what Bridges wrote, I guess I've let myself being a spiritual casualty.  I could 'only' now pray that He would heal me, heal him... 
I am sorry.


By: Jerry Bridges
Controllers

Test everything; hold fast what is good.  - 1 Thessalonians 5:21


"Controllers" are people who aren't willing to let you live your life before God as you believe He's leading you.  They have all the issues buttoned down and have cast-iron opinions about all of them.  These people only know black and white.  There are no grey areas to them.

They insist you live your Christian life according to their rules and their opinions.  If you insist on being free to live as God wants you to live, they will try to intimidate you and manipulate you one way or another.  Their primary weapons are guilt trips, rejection, or gossip.

These people must be resisted.  We must not allow them to subvert the freedom we have in Christ.  Paul treated the legalism in the Galatian church as heresy, and he called down a curse on its perpetrators.  I'm not prepared to go that far with our present-day legalist/controllers, but I want to tell you their actions are no incidental matter.  Their presence in our evangelical ranks is much more than a minor irritant, like a fly buzzing around our heads.  There are spiritual casualties all over our nation today because of the effects of legalistic controllers in their lives.

Controllers have been around a long time.  More than three hundred years ago, the Puritan Samuel Bolton wrote these instructive words: "Let us never surrender our judgments or our consciences to be at the disposal and opinions of others, and to be subjected to the sentences and determinations of men... It is my exhortation therefore to all Christians to maintain their Christian freedom by constant watchfulness.  You must not be tempted or threatened out of it; you must not be bribed or frightened from it; you must not let either force or fraud rob you of it." (Samuel Bolton, The True Bounds of Christian Freedom (1645; repr., Edinburgh, Scotland: Banner of Truth Trust, 1978), 220-221.